上面每一種情緒都和心態(tài)有關(guān),這也就是為什么我一直強調(diào)心態(tài)的原因。這些情緒實際上就是個人心態(tài)的反映,而心態(tài)是你可以組織、引導(dǎo)和完全掌控的對象。為了達到組織、引導(dǎo)和掌控的目的,你必須控制你的思想,你必須對思想中產(chǎn)生的各種情緒抱持著警覺性,并且視其對心態(tài)的影響是好是壞而接受或拒絕。樂觀會增強你的信心和彈性,而仇根會使你失去寬容和正義感。如果你無法控制自己情緒,你的一生將會因為不時的情緒沖動而受害。
Each emotion is related to mental attitude,and that is why I have placed so much stress on the character of one's mental attitude.These emotions are nothing but reflections of your mental attitude,which you can organize,guide,and completely command.To do so,you must take control of your present there,and embrace or reject them on the basis of their contribution to your mental attitude.Optemism will increase your confidence and flexibility;hatred will undermine your tolerance and keen sense of justice.If you do not take this control,you are condemning yourself to an entire life buffeted by the winds of emotional whim.
如果你正在努力控制情緒的話,可難備一張圖表,寫下你每天體驗并且控制情緒的次數(shù),這種方法可使你了解情緒發(fā)作的頻繁性和它的力量。一旦你發(fā)現(xiàn)刺激情緒的因素時,便可采取行動除掉這些因素,或把它們找出來充分利用。
If you find yourself struggling to gain this control,compile a chart on which you note every day the number of times you experience and act on an emotion.Make a not of circumstances which inspire the emotion. This will give you tremendous insight into the frequency and power of your emotions.Onve you know which forces trigger your emotions,you can act to eliminate them or to seek them out and use them.
將你追求成功的欲望,轉(zhuǎn)變成一股強烈的執(zhí)著意念,并 且照手實現(xiàn)你的明確目標(biāo),這是使你學(xué)得情緒控制能力的兩 個基本要件,這兩個基本要件之間,具有相輔相成的關(guān)系, 而其中一個要件獲得進展時,另一要件也會有所進展。
Building you desire for success into a burning obsession and embarking on your definite major purpose are the cornerstones of your efforts to gain emotional control.Each strengthens the other,and progress with one will mean progress everywhere.